I agree.

If you keep the possibility of contact open, no matter how much you tell him off, you're sending a message to your sub-conscious that it isn't over.

Without realising it, your body will start to prepare for the encounter. You'll be rehearsing it. You're probably still having conversations with him in your head, and that's natural. But it is the thing you most need to move away from.

Just my opinion, Eve.

Have you considered a one-off session of primal scream therapy?