@s4nd... thank you vm.. you make all excellent points! So true what you said about adultry and a conscience. I also hadn't thought of the possibility that it would just bring it all right back up for me, and you're right, it would! It would hinder all the progress I've already made... thank you so much for your detailed, thoughtful reply!!

@pURple, thank you vm as well..... yes, what i need the MOST here is to be done with him AND over it and moving on..... primal scream therapy would be awesome right about now!!!! maybe I'll drive to the ocean or the forest by myself, lol !

@Sprout -- thank you, too, vm.... and you're sooooooo right. He is NOT mature in any way or capable of having a mature, adult conversation. You;re right -- forget it. He DID react way over the top about that.