Will she asking if you are coming for your welfare or her scheduling convenience? Yes, there are hard times in therapy, but there has to be a sense of being cared about, even if it is this person really cares about her work and I am her work. I dont think a scheduling snafu is so bad, but the dialogue around it doesn't seem like good medicine. Is there any reason not to try a new therapist, even if you keep her until you are sure? It definitely sounds like the bad part of a relationship, when you know her habits so well, and they are not endearing, not supportive and not therapeutic. On the other hand, maybe you can have a summit meeting with her, and ask her what her hopes for you are, her plans & vision, and a check in about how she thinks you two are doing as a team? A T should have a compass and some idea of where you are going, but here it seems like she bogs down in snarky dynamics that we can all find aplenty outside of therapy. A big part of the job is her skillful communication, but. . .