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Originally Posted by divine1966
I am wondering (in order to understand what’s going on) if you have not seen him this year and you said it doesn’t sound that you’ll see him next year either and you barely ever talk on the phone because it’s overwhelming to him, how do you conduct your relationship? Emails? Texts? Skype? How many times you actually met him in real life, if ever?
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I wrote about this in my earlier post but it's ok,I'll say again.
Yes, we've met many times over yrs we've known each other,including off course when became a couple. We both live in different countries but you can take bus commute even tho it's very long drive...the problem is that you can't travel during winter :/
Before he ended up in hospital we would chat,voice call and video call mostly, every night over phone.
Now it's still a bit overwhelming to him sometimes altho it has improved tremendously over past 3 months...but we both decided to take it slowly and from what I've noticed,it helped in his recuperation extremely.
We've both agreed that this yr was not the best idea to meet,despite the fact that we both missed each other so much, because as seesaw said earlier,he was just diagnosed at beginning of this year and it'll take him time to get better and his state of mind stronger.
Now that this happened, I'm not certain if he'll be ok for a visit next yr...I'm only thinking about his wellbeing here. But I think it's best not to speculate things ahead and just wait and see what will happen....it's extremely long time till that visit should happen.
All is revealed he hasn't had this type of mania,the hypomania till now..at least to my knowledge because into those 1st months he was a mess so I wouldn't know for sure :/ . And it was only induced by severe stress from that training :/ sadly this stress was something he was obliged to go through by his own doctors,it was stress type of training so bipolar ppl can withstand stress better in daily life,like work,crowds ect...but it backfired :/ it was obviously just too much to what they put him through. As soon as he told me that those trainings were becoming more and more intense,I had a feeling that something bad will happen. :/
Thank you so much for that tip and help, it's extremely helpful
When this current hypomania ep just started he was extremely erratic,and actually rude. But now in last message he sent a day ago,he seemed very calm.
I was actually gonna do just what you said.
stay calm,no provoking or saying anything that would do that. If he'll still attack me for no reason then I'll withdraw from conversation...I think that's the best course.