Can you remind me why you are still seeing her? You say that you know her so well after 5 years but somehow you seem to hope that she will magically change. It should be obvious that she will not. If you want to please her then I’m sure you can bend yourself (at least temporarily) enough to comply with her. But that’s not therapy and it should be quite clear by now that there will be no therapy with her. Why do you choose to stay in that victim position?