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Originally Posted by SalingerEsme
This hurt me to read. I felt so sad for you. Yes I understand the school of therapy that won't reward destructive behavior with attention, but that has not been the best practice for years. I wish for you a T who will stay the course and be with you in your hardest times. This T seems ti replicate some real life negative dynamics.
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I think she adds to what I’ve experienced in my negative relationship. It wasn’t until yesterday that i noticed that she contributed to this negative feeling in relationships . She knows my issues but she contributes to it. Then she won’t help me fix it appropriately because she’s busy and she won’t adjust. It’s not that expect her to do that other times but being that she was the cause of it i expected her to do something.
Last session we were talking about attachment and she told me to find someone out there to have a relationship to replicate like the therapeutic relationship. Well if this is the therpeutic relationship that I’m suppose to find in the real world I’ve already encountered those. Part of the reason why I’m in therapy and don’t trust others is because of the horrible relationships I’ve had in the real world. She acknowledged yesterday that her contribution to my issues yesterday was negative but then she disappeared.