Hmmm.... I see. Well, first off, we can never get all that we need from just ONE person alone. We DO need friendships because other people can offer us different things that we may need. So you should be able to have other friendships, but I can also understand your husband being hurt because you developed feelings for someone else.

To clarify, were they romantic feelings you developed for this other person? Or just feelings of caring, closeness and friendship? We can have feelings for someone because they give us what we need, but it doesn't have to be romantic. There's a big difference.

One option is to talk to your husband openly about what you need from him. To present to him that you are looking for support, rather than an opposing viewpoint or how things "should be". That you simply want to feel understood...... and supported with your feelings.

So given that your husband was hurt by this, an open conversation about what you need and are looking for and WHY you turned to someone else is probably a good idea.

Healthy relationships involve open and honest conversations. We need to be open about what we need and want, and talk honestly about that with our partners.

That being said, like I mentioned, you should also be able to obtain support from other people and from other friendships. When you cross boundaries into developing romantic feelings for another outside your marriage, and IF that is what happened, then yes, people will get hurt.

I hope this helps. (((((Hugs))))))