Ahhh... ok. Well, it IS best to cut ties with the person because of the romantic feelings, and for the sake of your husband's feelings and your marriage.

It is tricky business. You can certainly develop friendships with others and get the emotional support you need outside your marriage, but when it crosses over into romantic feelings, there's bound to be trouble and hurt feelings.

I wish i had more for you, but you did the right thing by cutting off this other relationship. AND if that person now feels unloved and unworthy, honestly, that's THEIR issue to deal with on their own. It's not your responsibility to coddle this other person's feelings when romantic feelings have been developed inappropriately.