I have stood up to her and she always finds a way to shut me down or crank up the drama in ways that actually traumatizes me and takes me by surprise. Yet, she can also be VERY condescending and I have gotten where I simply can't stand to even hear her voice much less be in her presence. She is and always has been a very controlling person. I used to be able to work around that, but not since I developed PTSD and she has gotten "mean" and bossy and as I mentioned condescending. I manage to keep myself together in front of her, but afterwards I can get severely triggered and can end up struggling with bad chills for days, especially at night they can get so bad they wake me up.