You are doing great!!! So impressed with your positive self talk. Good on you. Keep it up. It's what you have to do.

I'm very sensitive to sounds. I know the battle when noise invades my calm. Challenges my centredness. The simmering raging that comes. Good on you for holding the uglies at bay.

I know some people walk around all day with their ipod plugged in so that they can control the sounds around them. I tend to go hide out in the forest when sounds round me get unbearable to take. On really bad days even the sound of the birds singing can be more than I can take. That's when a long shower with water running past my ears blocking every other sound helps calm me sometimes.

I wish I had a good idea for you to pursue. Bass vibrates so its a sound you feel as much as hear. Perhaps another chat with the new tenant could help if presented in the right way. It may take time to build a bit of a base friendship first. Find a way to befriend her so that she will be more likely to empathize with your situation and do more to help you. I know you don't want to risk being seen as a complainer but if people don't know they can't help. Maybe if you show her friendship eventually she will be more accommodating of your special needs.