For what it's worth, I had a similar experience. I had undiagnosed AvPD, depression, and an assortment of other minor issues when trying to get through university. It wasn't one of the easier programs, and with my issues and personal problems I flunked out -- more than once. I showed an incredible tenacity all things considered and got re-accepted and actually finished the degree after many years.

Talking to people as the perma-flunk guy was horrid. But in all fairness, not one person was ever unkind or said anything untoward. I was not excluded, other than what I did to myself.

If anyone did think less of me, they kept their mouths firmly shut. Several were encouraging. I even had a couple of (not very close) friends in those days. I know this probably won't change how you feel. It still rarely seems to help me significantly. I just thought it might help to hear a positive, real-world story.

And, if I understand correctly, she's the one trying to contact you. Doesn't that really say something?