Just based on the posts alone:

Yes, consistent and good therapy can help heal those deep childhood wounds that occur from a dysfunctional family.

It has taken me years to get past my own.. it's a constant process.... I am still healing and working on improvements, even at the age of 47. I keep finding myself in similar, dysfunctional romantic relationships as a result of my upbringing.

Thing is, in order to heal, I really think that forgiveness, compassion and understanding of wrongdoings is an important step for oneself. Our parents can sometimes have SEVERE limitations and SEVERE emotional and/ or mental health handicaps. Understanding those handicaps, AND having compassion for our caretakers for not being who we wanted or needed them to be is healing.... and an important step on the road to recovery.

My father was psychologically abusive towards me, he was overly critical of me and he never gave me the unconditional love and acceptance that I so wanted and deserved. So, what happened? I've ended up with similar types of men, repeatedly!

But I've forgiven my father for his limitations -- and I see it as just that. He grew up in an abusive and alcoholic home where dysfunction was abound. NOT to excuse his behavior, BUT I understand WHY and HOW my father came to be how he is. He's a psychiatrist even!!!

And my mom? I've forgiven her for not protecting and defending me more as a kid. She also was emotionally/psychologically abused by my father, to an extent. He would put her down in front of us frequently.

So, my point? Forgiveness, understanding and letting go of anger and/or rage from childhood wounds..... it helps to heal..... it's a process, and sometimes a lengthy one that takes time and therapy to work through. Anger is justified, but in the end, anger only harms oneself, really, and is a hindrance to personal happiness and well-being. And yes, if you have found a bad therapist, it is very helpful to keep shopping to find a good one. Therapy I found to be indispensable over the years.

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