Are you familiar with the term limerance? I’m wondering if this applies as to his obsessions. I don’t know that much about it....but I am wondering if it “applies” and why it’s happening. This may sound odd, but it might be an issue unrelated to say, inappropriate infatuations taken too far for reasons unrelated to your relationship.

That said, please understand that I’m not condoning his behavior and I’m not qualified to advise you. You deserve better treatment, much better. I’m wondering if a therapist can work through why he has these obsessions...maybe he’s just being a jerk OR maybe it’s an issue of his manifesting in this inappropriate behavior.

I thought of the above as he automatically switched to a new celebrity to obsess about. Like they are interchangeable widgets...if you both want to try and salvage the relationship, I think individual therapy and couples counseling is needed.

Perhaps I’m thinking about this too deeply. I just wonder if there is an underlying mental illness he can be treated for or if he’s not ill, then a good therapist could help figure it out and guide him in resolving it - and then the compulsions end.

If he isn’t willing to get help...it’s moot and I am sending positive thoughts your way. I know this would not be something I could condone.