My friend has moved on and has actually started a pretty big healing process because of this. It brought out a lot of issues for him and when he told his T she was ecstatic, saying this was what she had wanted to get out of him for a long time. So though it was a frustrating experience, it looks like its going to work out for my friend, because he's finally feeling enough pain from these issues to work on them, and he's finally going over his 4th step with his sponsor on Sunday. As for the girl, I don't know.....when I told her I'd talk to her if she got back to meetings, she got angry. But no one can see the solution when they're still living in the problem.