Thanks for the support guys. I read everything, but I'll naturally reply to the critical replies.
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Originally Posted by unaluna
Point 3 above is the basis on which psychotherapy is built, its not peculiar to you. Its why and how psychotherapy can work.
Point 2 - you claim you have this right relative to this person (the therapist). How do you know you have this right? Do you have a contract stating it? Maybe you have to ask for the right. This is not trivial!
Point 1 - our parents could have made it easier for us to tolerate friends. Instead they forced us to choose between having our parents (and surviving), or having friends. Now, older, we need friends to survive (and mate with etc). If we dont adapt, our genes will not survive, period. Some parents do succeed in killing their young. Your therapist is trying to make that not happen. Again, not trivial.
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3 - Yes, I know that. But the emphasis has to be on "probably".
2 - When I first read it, it started sounding abusive, as if I need permission to do whatever.
Rationally I will say this - "If it's not disallowed, then it's allowed".
1 - What are you talking about when saying "killing their young"? I can agree my parents are limiting my growth and it's one of the reasons I want to go away from home. But it still sounds extreme. And how would you know it's my therapist's intentions?
I also read your second post when you found out therapists should always give "positive regard".
But still, I had this bottled up so I had to reply to your previous post. It's an issue I'm working on.
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Originally Posted by Purple,Violet,Blue
There seems to be mixed reactions to your post, Vibrating.
No-one doubts that you're suffering, and it's a shame that's happening in what should feel like a safe place.
I have to be honest though, and say that I can sense a lot of anger from you. And it's coming out because the therapist symbolically represents your parents.
That's just my opinion.
There's nothing wrong with that. It's one of the things therapy is for. But if you're in denial about it, you could keep putting up smokescreens for years, and that won't help.
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Yes, I do deny that I have "things to work on". But if my therapist makes an error and instead of apologizing says "No one's perfect, we all make mistakes" and putting it all on me with his projecting pessimism, then I'll learn from the teacher.
That's it with the replies. So yes, I do have issues. People relations still bother me. There are moments when I can be "rude", such as raising my voice in the library when defending myself from people's advice. There are people who can dig their nose such as someone who said according to what I say I have depression.
I should have asked him if he's a doctor instead.
I get easily hurt during university.
Someone asked if there were positive moments with my therapist. He wanted to work on my emotions and I could feel it helps after a session.
He also "awakened" my emotions during one sessions and it felt very energizing during the moment.
But there's was something about that raised voice that made me want to leave. It's because I used to let it pass with some friends and it only made me increasingly angrier with them. I don't want anyone to get the habit of being angry with me because of their own issues and blaming it all on me. I don't deserve it, and no one else does either.