Well, I FINALLY got an answer and my sister picked up and began her BS of control. She said the helpers don't pick up the phone and then she begins her crap about telling me how to talk to my father. I responded with how I made it a point to call in the morning as she said that is the best time to call. I stood up to her (as some suggested here) and her reply was A LOUD "F You, F You" and she hung up on me. I managed to get in that I will get in my car and come there and after she yelled F you twice and hung up she must have decided she did not want me coming there and called back and handed the phone to my father.

YES, SHE IS MEAN, if she doesn't get HER WAY she yells F you and hangs up. SEE WHAT I AM DEALING WITH? Is it understood what "hovering" means now?

I had a nice conversation with my father, I told him I love him and I do miss him. Near the end he said, why don't you stop by some time. I said, "Dad, I am not welcome to do so, sorry" and it pretty much went over his head. I guess DENIAL is a comfort when one gets old like that.

I find myself wishing I had a recording how I was treated I could post so members could hear it for themselves, I would have to make sure to put a huge trigger warning on it.