lol he is still creating messes that I have to clean up but at least I dont have to be anywhere near him or deal with him directly. I just have to deal with the people he created the mess with & they honestly feel sorry for my situation & are actually VERY HELPFUL. Such a different side of people I am seeing now. They were mean & unhelpful when I hadnt physically left him. Now they understand what is going on they offer information & ideas & suggestions & some even help when they can.

The saying "Im just TIRED of it all" was my mantra for the 33 years I was living in the marriage. After leaving, the tiredness was replaced with thankfulness for everyone who has been such a great help in my life since then. I still go through rough times when one thing hits after another but the good now outweighs the bad & I KNOW the tiredness will be gone in the near future.