I'm late to the party. My husband is morbidly obese. His mom constantly talks about him loosing weight. His sister and cousin talk about him getting surgery. I don't think they relies that they talk about it a lot. I mean they can't stop and then they feed him far more then he eats at home. He knows he's over weight and needs to lose weight and is slowly trying but he eats and drinks a lot because he's always hungry.

If I could talk to his mom without judgement I'd tell her (and do tell her) to back off she's telling him I don't love you unless you're smaller and I know that's not true but that's the vibe she gives.