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Originally Posted by healingme4me
I understand what you are telling me. I do recognize that people aren't all black and white. 
Perhaps understanding my point of view from my own perspective would give more clarity. My own father can be rather obtuse and it's frustrating in too many ways to get into on this thread. I wind up frustrated from not feeling heard, understood, etc with him. Except I'm not the only one that has had this experience with him.
Of course her father could have health issues. This could be unlike him or it could replay a repeated pattern with him.
I've conversed through the years with OE, on top of everything. In ending my reply to her I did ask if there was an ideal response from him. Which is important for a variety of reasons which I am not going to get into. |
Yes - I noticed you asked about the ideal, and I recognize the importance.
I hope I did not offend - I said what I did only bc I know sometimes even though my dad does not have medical problems or psych problems for example - he still prefers to believe "what he prefers to believe" and there is no convincing him otherwise, but also - my dad has shut himself down emotionally to me, not bc of anything I did - but just bc of how life happened - in a protective shield, for himself. So there are many ways for a "obvious" statement to still go "unnoticed" or "misunderstood" - was my point. I do recognize I possibly came off critical, I did not know how else to word it and I am sorry if I did so. I have always liked n respected you.