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Originally Posted by healingme4me
It's water under the bridge. The black/white in terms of forums, the ones that I've noticed this more from are more catered to caregivers/partners of[bpd] and it's a jab.
Apology is accepted. I do see your posts as being supportive of the OP.
It seems my word choice in the word straight forward really struck a nerve? :\
OE said what she meant and meant what she said. It was direct and to the point. What more could she say? She could have vented to her father about her sister, to what avail?
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Yes - it was the word choice I suppose. Other than being direct about why she did not feel welcome anymore there is nothing more she could say. But even then, he may have chose not to hear her. I know that frustration. And when it happens - you still feel the guilt or question what else you could have/should have done. It hurts and it isn't something that has a simple answer.
Some people have legit reasons for doing it like I said - medical or psychological illnesses affecting their understanding. For those people, its not so much a choice to not understand as it is just part of their reality.
Other people though - don't have those illnesses. For those people it is a choice n whether that choice is conscious or subconscious does not matter. The fact they do not understand very obvious things when you point them out - is hurtful.
And when others point it out as being obvious makes it sting worse, bc you think "if it is obvious, why won't he/she see it? Did I do something wrong?"
So.. idk maybe it was your wording, maybe it was my experiences, maybe it was a blend.
Anyway, thank you for accepting my apology.