AAAAA,
Check out the American With Disabilites Act in your state. You can probably find it online.

There is something called a Section 504 which requires a company to provide accommodations/ modifications as much as possible.

He should have gone through a Transition program in high school. They didn't help with anything?

I'm with Echoes - it sounds like your son needs help with his self-esteem. Many children with learning disabilites have a low self esteem because not everyone has been educated to the fact that having a learning disability does not mean you are stupid! I have had LD kids who were gifted in my class Also, the other students who do not understand can be cruel. Maybe this is why your son fears starting work, maybe he's afraid that he'll make mistakes and others will notice. This is just some of the things I've experienced as a special educator. I do think a therapist could help in this area.

AAAAA, I hear what you are saying about SSI. This money is there for people who have disabilites. Your son is going to face difficulties that other 21 year olds do not have to deal with. This is why I pay taxes. Your son can use this money to "level the playing field" buy buying things that help him with is disability. I understand that you have money to support him, but this money would be for him. I would Highly recommend that you pursue this and not feel guilty about it.

So, did he go to school to learn computer aided drawing? I think the Community Colleges offer this. The good thing about that is that they also write IEPs for students with documented disabilites. So he could have accommodations/modifications in college. The physical act of writing is difficult for him? This is where SSI could kick in. Buy him a laptop. Using the computer instead of writing could be an accommodation. He could get help with his reading. The options for him are numerous, although it may not seem like that to him!

If you have any specific questions, please feel free to PM me or respond to this reply. As a special ed. teacher, I may have access to information or resources that can help. Your son sounds like a wonderful person! You are a great parent and I commend you for all that you are doing. Please use me as a resource if you need. I'd be glad to help