((Crypts)) you are not upsetting me at all. You are trying to be supportive in what ever way you can.

I have talked to my lawyer about what I am dealing with. My older brother has talked to a lawyer too. Also, at one point when my brother was stopping by their home to visit my parents he began to notice how smelly and dirty their home was. One time when I talked to him and planned to meet at my parents house, I was a bit nervous because I had not seen my brother in 20 years. He lives in another state and he chose to distance from my parents and my older sister, he himself has a bad history with her. My sister ALWAYS hated him from the moment he was brought home as a baby. So, I grew up with two siblings that hated each other. My sister did not want me to be nice to him or even play with him. She wanted me to hate him like her, but I could not do that and I played with him when she was not around, he had problems and had no friends and I did not want him to have no one.

Well, when I drove to my parents to meet with my brother he was there first and when I walked in my parent's house it was REALLY bad and my brother had all the windows open. I snuck in the bathroom and my mother's room with a garbage bag and picked up all the soiled pee pads that accumulated that made the house stink. I opened the refrigerator because that stunk really bad and got rid of all the rotten smelly food. I was shocked to see how bad it was because I was under the impression my sister and her daughter were taking care of all that, but they obviously were not.

My brother was so upset he ended up reporting it and I don't know if anything happened after that because they never tell you if they check it out. I was under the impression that my sister and her daughter was taking care of that as they had taken over all of that and god forbid I butt my nose in.

As far as taking legal action? It would cost not only financially, but my biggest worry is how doing that could upset my parents and stress them to where they can't handle it and it may contribute to making them worse. I always think of that as you may see in what I share. If my father is not declared incompetent, which is how my sister has worked it so far, he would have to show up in court and probably with my mother and I honestly feel the stress from that could kill him. What I did notice is that after that visit my parents house was kept up and cleanned really well.

What did happen during that visit with my brother is my sister came. And I sat there and witnessed the HATE between the two of them. Truth is, witnessing that triggered a lot to come forward in me from my childhood. And once again I felt like a small helpless child in the middle. I did not anticipate that happening, it caught me off guard. And the way my sister acted was just what she had ALWAYS warned she would do, "you play with him and I will not be nice to you". That has NEVER changed. Here we all are in our sixties, yet that hate from our childhood NEVER changed.

Well, I guess my point in all this is to say that I have reached out for help and talked to my own lawyer who ended up taking over my case from the lawyer that had declined so badly and messed up my case so badly. This lawyer knows I have PTSD and was treated very badly. She is nice to me and I can call her and talk and she doesn't charge me and she is honest with me about what I would have to face. Taking legal action is expensive and could end up having consequences that hurts my parents and I don't want them hurt.