Honestly, unhealthy behavior has no time frame in my mind - meaning it doesn't matter if it's been going on for 10 min or 10 decades, unhealthy is still unhealthy. The difference is you have tried to help her see she needs to change it and she refused. That's when courts can get involved. If you don't want that, it's fine - but there are still no other options available. It's just a cruel fact of this life we live in.

I had not been able to click to take myself out of this thread bc I had entered it thru my notifications on PC. This time I entered thru my email so I will remove myself now. If you want to talk to me about this, feel free to pm, but I don't want to feel I am doing nothing but upsetting.

I wish you well.
❤