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Originally Posted by prefabsprout
That is awful, I'm so sorry you had to experience that unprofessional inappropriate behaviour in the workplace - it was not directed to you but it was through the headset so you were exposed to it.
I think you did the right thing, whatever happens next you have done your part. I'm guessing you aren't union (retail is poorly unionised), but if you were I'd be advising you to let them know too.
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Thanks prefabsprout. I am not part of a workers union for retail (I don't even know if those exist in the U.S.). I'm glad I let his colleagues know. What's also reprehensible is that he's a high school English teacher.
Can you imagine he acts that way at his high school, with his students, and his fellow teachers? People like this guy make me cringe. How, and why, is he allowed to be promoted to a store manager position when he clearly has no boundaries with people.
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Originally Posted by FallDuskTrain
Please do not question yourself. You did nothing wrong. I probably would have done the same thing; although I would have waited one or couple more days to calm myself down and/or to see if I see any other alarming behavior. But I would have eventually done the same thing. What he did is not okay; besides it sounds like it might have triggered your past sexual abuse traumas.
May be you can look for another retail job right away? It is the shopping time of the year. It might be easier to find another retail job.
You are pretty resilient.
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Hey FallDuskTrain thank you. Being exposed to the store manager's boundaryless, sexually inappropriate behavior definitely triggered my my past sexual abuse traumas.
In between recuperative naps today, after a 2 hour visit to the E.R. for IV fluids and an EKG test (I was scared I was either having a heart attack or a massive panic attack based on my symptoms -- turns out it was a massive panic attack and my body's response to being physically over-exerted; exercise induced asthma that required a nebulizing treatment, IV fluids for dehydration, glucose tablets for low blood sugar, and the EKG was for safety to rule out a heart attack since heart disease runs in my family; I had severe indigestion, horrible chills, vomiting, pain in my left arm and middle of my chest, and my lips were very pale. But again, a massive panic attack thankfully not heart attack).
I've decided to call the retail store tomorrow to tell them that I quit. I just simply wont put up with a store manager like that, even if I never worked another shift with him again.
Since its the holiday season, I should have no problem finding another part-time retail job. And the next one I find I will make sure to tell the hiring store manager that I can only work 4 hour shifts.
I never want to go through this again. I just watched an episode of Superstore (a spoof on big box store employees' lives during work hours). Sure, I'll miss hanging out with the other teachers I met there, but that's not good enough reason to stay and put up with whatever fallout would happen for notifying other store management about what this guy did. Nobody wants to hear gross, inappropriate comments at their work place, esp. from a manager.
I'm not the type of person who can smile and be a doormat with managers who act like asshats.
If they are a manager, they'd sure as hell better act like it around me. Esp. because this guy's also a high school teacher. He knows better. But for some reason, his retail store manager peers either let him get away with his behavior for too long, or they simply don't care. And either way, those reasons aren't good enough for me to continue to work at that retail store.