I understand childhood neglect n childhood abuse. I received them both to varying degrees. I have forgiven - but that is not the same as what your friend equates it with.

Forgiveness does not mean "ok, it is done n over - I survived, so it's alright". Forgiveness is saying "Yes, it happened. Yes, it changed me. Now I get to decide what I want to do with those changes because the past no longer controls me."
You can opt to keep her in your life totally, only partially, or not at all. That decision can be changed later if you want. You are in control. But to regain control - forgiveness must take place. For you, not her.

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