(((((((((((stormy)))))))) i think you have a right to remind her that if the "rules" are going to change, she needs to tell you and the system that in advance. I just read that in a DID/MPD sourcebook that rules or means of therapy really need to be clearly defined before any changes are made.

Either tell her that, or the littles can write her a note or card maybe or draw a picture of how they are feeling right now because of the change.

(((((((((more hugs)))))))))) I hope for the best, Kiya