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Nike007 · Nov 19, 2017, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by golden_eve

Oh, it's a she.... ok. Well, if she can bounce back and get another job, that's one thing. Does she live on her own? Does she need to pay rent? If so, she'll need to get a job ASAP.

The problem with dating someone who is jobless is you have to pay for everything if and when you do anything that requires money. And if she's sick.... wow, this sounds like my ex. He was sick AND jobless and I carried the financial burden for both of us for four months straight while he never found a job to help out.

My ex aside, t's a tough road when someone is unemployed, but that doesn't mean you have to eliminate them -- it can be a wait and see kind of thing.

If it's a rare connection for you.... well, there's something to be said about that and it may be worthwhile to meet her and just see how things unfold.

Nothing you've said makes me think you need to walk away from this person... but I would just see if things improve and if she gets another job.

Yes, I'm gay (or part gay technically).

She lives with her family at the moment. It seems more common for people my age to live at home still. I guess it's a generational thing. I do believe they want to move away but she doesn't have the money to do so and is taking a year off of school for a break, and I guess to make money also to pay for it, as it's quite expensive.

From what I understand about her job, they were having some management issues and were struggling (the business), so I don't believe it was 100% sure fault.

By sick, I meant a cold or flu, not really sure, but it's not that bad. They pulled a muscle before this too, but nothing too major.

Thanks for your response.