My fault. Why is everything my fault? Why am I the one to blame?

"I don't like you talking to me like that, it hurts me." I say - "well you do it too"

"Please stop yelling at me all the time." I say. "Well you do it too."

"You don't like it when I pick on you all the time. Please don't do it to me." I say "Well, you used to do it. Feels good - don't it?"

"Please help with the housework." I say "Why? You never do for me."

Those are minor examples of course.

Name calling. Belittling. Causing me to feel in attractive. Attempting to embarrass me in front of others. Purposely lying just to see "if I will fall for it."
These are more examples. Of course - there is always a reason I cause those too.
Name calling: got him too mad
Belittling: didn't do like he asked
Causing me to feel unattractive: "I do it to him"
Attempting to embarrass me in front of others: I do stupid stuff n its funny
Purposely lying: I can never take a joke so he does that instead

Then of course we argue near all the time.

Then ... Since it is futile to talk to him about it - I try talking to others. "Well, you allow it..."

Pin a button on me that says "throw all mistakes here - this is the 'mistake bin', no good comes out of it except to collect mistakes"