No one "deserves" to be treated badly, and that includes the way they are spoken to.

I am struggling (and making great progress) with not yelling at my dog; it is bad training and does no good. How much moreso for a human? Making fun of others, making off color remarks, directly insulting, or even implying negativity has no place here at PC, imo, certainly not in a chat room. I know many comments that are made are done "jk" and after the sting, they do put that up: "jk" well? It's too late. There's nothing supportive about any of that. And who's to say someone "deserves" anything negative? Most of the members here at PC are suffering already, some with mental unwellness and others with both that and physical illness.

With that said, even when someone does say something negative, they still don't deserve a put down. Supportive comments of encouragement works best, though sometimes they don't work at all. Each member here is on their own path to healing. For some, that includes learning how to be nice to others.