people like that never change. The nice at the beginning was him just trying to draw you in like a spider with its web. Once he knew he had you he went for you like a fly trapped in his spider web.

Unlike the fly in the spider web you are human & humans are capable of having strength to walk away from situations like that & not just sit there hoping that spider will change his ways & love you instead of keeping you trapped in his web.

The only one who can get you out of this is YOU & walking away. But you are not capable in the condition you are in right now to do this which is exactly why yku need therapy to learn how to gain yoyr self-worth to grow strong enough to walk away from this crap you are involved in & this horrible person who will never do anything but continue to use you. This is who & what he has been all along, you just weren't wise enough to see it because your other issues masked the truth.

His technique if coming across sweet & caring at the beginning is exactly the way many of the child molestors behave. They draw the child in by being nice then once they have the childs trust they start doing things to them thst are horrible but becausevthe child has learned to think the person is nice they trust the person will do nothing to hurt them but only is doing what they are doing because the person actuallybcares about them & loves them. Thus is typical behavior & has nothing to do with how they really feel about the person

The technique used is very similar to that of what child molestors do to draw in the chikdren they abuse :