Thank you for your explanation spidy
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I think he actually had good/normal intentions at first, but he let it go to his head. He says he like control and power which is completely okay, many people like bdsm. But i have actually told him that i donīt want bdsm things, i just want normal relationship things.
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just FYI, there is no way that a perspn who is into bdsm & is into power & control especially with a 16 year old ever had GOOD intentions. He had his manipulating intentions just like the child mollester techniques but he could get away with it easier over the internet because it was even LESS obvious to anyone around you especially if you didnt have parents who cared enough to MONITOR your internet use.
He did the TYPICAL manuever..make her think Im noce & caring to get her into my web & once I have her, wham....got her stuck in my web....he knew how to make you his & you bejng young & totally inexperienced didnt even see it coming.
At his age, he knew EXACTLY what he was doing with you from the beginning.
You need a good T who wont just send you home as being normal. You need help not only with self-esteem & self-worth but you also need someone willing to hold you accountable for getting out of this situation & most of all learning how to be FIRM in your communication of NO & following through with it. Most of the time it does take a caring person or T to keep reminding us during the time we are battling to stop a relationship especially when we dont quite totally get ALL that is wrkng with it & how bad it is REALLY affecting our life & our future. We need good suppirt to be able to STAND STRONG against things like this & its obvious your parents arent the support to you that you have ever needed. You seem like you are on your own to deal with messy things in your life & you desperately need STRONG REAL CARING SUPPORT & GUIDANCE at this to get your life back onto a normal track for someone your age so that you can have what you desire for your own life & stop living ONLY to please someone elses desires that takes absolutely NO CONSIDERATION for yours. Learning to stand strong against someone who has programmed these thoughts into your mind over the years is NOT EASY & takes a good T to stand by you & work through all this that you have been programmed to believe in your life.