I have a friend, not the same one I mentioned in previous threads, that just doesn't seem to care about being friends anymore. And in all honesty, I think people who mentioned in the past that this friend wasn't really that good of a friend were right. She never really seemed to care much about me despite her telling me. She always complains a lot about everything but if someone else does it, she gets mad. Also she gets mad if someone bails out on her, especially without warning or letting her know or giving a lame excuse, yet she thinks it is okay for her to do the same thing to others, including me. She has made plans with me in the past and then would give a lame excuse, knowing full well it wasn't true, and I would usually let it go.

But recently, she had me waiting for an hour to meet up with her only to have her cancel and say she would not make it. She kept giving reasons she couldn't go. Both were false reasons. She said it was too cold out, yet it wasn't cold at all, and also said it would be crowded, yet it wasn't crowded. I found out later that she just simply wanted to hang out with someone else. Not sure if she still went to the event with the other person or just did something else entirely with the other person.

She has done that on other occasions as well. I politely asked her to let me know next time she plans on bailing out so that way I am not wasting my time waiting around. She got mad at me saying I am clingy and that I need to start trusting her more. She has done similar stuff like that. If she did something and I kindly let her know I would appreciate it if she stopped doing whatever it was, usually it involved bailing out or deliberately ignoring me if we ever do hang out, she would get mad and start guilt tripping me.

She says stuff like I can't believe you still don't seem to trust me after all this time. Yes we've been friends for a while, but it doesn't necessarily make her a trustworthy friend if she constantly does things such as bail out. If anyone else did that to her, and it has happened to her, she gets very mad. Also she claims that she works a lot too. I know she works, and I understand, but I have noticed that she will make time for other friends and even boyfriend, but is always busy when I ask if she wants to hang out.

Also I am always the one who has to ask and when we do hang out, I am always the one who has to do all the traveling using public transit. She can drive and also knows how to use public transit, yet never makes an effort to meet halfway or anything. All of this happening makes me think she really doesn't value me as a friend. When I first met her, she really didn't like me for some reason, but then we became friends. But I now sometimes wonder how true the friendship really was.

She really started talking to me more after she broke up with her first boyfriend three years ago. She talked to me before they broke up, but not as much and only when it was just me and her. And I was there to help her through her break up for over a year after it happened. She took literally two years to stop talking about her break up and she always came to me about it since i never told her to stop or anything like that, even though other people got tired of it. It makes me wonder if she was just using me more so than being an actual friend the whole time. Now that she has a new boyfriend, who is very nice, she suddenly doesn't talk anymore and if we do, it is brief.

I respect her decision but it does make me wonder if she really ever cared. I understand she is in a relationship but I've been friends with other people who were in relationships and they never ignored me. They still treated me just like they had before they had gotten into a relationship. And this is also one of the friends that stopped talking to the other friend I have who I mentioned in a previous post before. My friend who is pulling away treated my other friend who I mentioned in previous posts the same way as she treats me. And a few other people back then told me they don't think this current friend is a good friend.

Back then I ignored it, but now I am starting to think they were serious. Like I mentioned, I understand she may be a bit busy, I have a work life as well. In fact, we do the exact same jobs, only difference is that it is in different school districts. So I know exactly what kind of work it is since it is the same job duties. Only difference is that where I'm at it is called paraprofessional, where she is at, it is called teachers aide. But the job duties are exactly the same. So I know it isn't any busier than me. And the fact that she has plenty of time for other friends but not me kind of means she doesn't seem to care that much. The people, even the friend who used to treat me poorly but is nice to me now, warned me about her and I am beginning to think they were all right.