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Originally Posted by Crypts_Of_The_Mind
Ok - I am not ignoring everything you said. It sounded like a fairly unhealthy friendship bc it sounded one-sided.
My question though is this:
She was bailing out on you most of the time n lying when doing it - so why now is it hard for you when she is finally being upfront about her decision to end the friendship? I understand wanting to know how she felt - but the only she could tell you that since she lied so much, even if she did, trust would be an issue. So, I think it would be best to think of it as a lesson learned (not to let ppl zap your energy while you feel unable to do anything about it) and a weight off of you...and then learn ways of moving forward
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The reason it is difficult is not only because I wish she had made more of an effort to be a better friend, but also just the fact that she feels the need to lie, think that I won't notice, and accuse me of being clingy or not trusting her when I politely ask her to do something such as letting me know ahead of time if she plans on bailing out. Also, as you mentioned, I feel zapped of my energy. Back a few years ago when she complained non-stop about her ex, I almost ended the friendship then. And I probably should have. It got to the point where I became depressed since I was so worn out. Yeah if she doesn't want to be friends, then that's fine. Just wish she could be more honest about it. Oh well.