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Old Nov 20, 2017, 07:21 PM
rdgrad15 rdgrad15 is offline
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Originally Posted by Crypts_Of_The_Mind View Post
Honestly it sounds to me that she tried to be controlling n when she failed, she cut you loose n tried to convince you that you are the cause of it.

Controlling people and/or abusive people cannot accept responsibility for any problems. To do so would take away from their ideal. They must remain ideal at least in their own mind if they are to continue to be able to manipulate others.

I hope that makes sense.
Yeah she definitely tried to control me. She once got super mad at me right before graduating college because I didn't have a job lined up yet. Knew what I wanted to do, just had a hard time finding a job. And I don't mean just disappointed, I mean screaming mad. Stopped talking to me for a few hours as well afterwards and said I do nothing even though I was always doing homework. And also she once told her ex at the end of their relationship that he has to text her every day and see her twice a day if the relationship were to continue. He basically dumped her after that.

Also she would get mad if her best friend from high school bailed out for legit reasons. Once she postponed plans due to attending a funeral to support a different friend. My casual friend got super mad at her saying she needed to hang out with her, not going to a funeral. There are a lot of other cases where she can be controlling. I agree, I think she realizes now she can't control me. She hasn't cut me off completely yet, but I just know from past experiences it won't be long before she stops talking completely. That's why I think she is controlling too. She gets mad if someone does it to her, but then it's okay for her to do it to others. She calls me clingy if I politely ask her to quit doing something when all I want is her to treat me better.