Sadly this is a pattern of an abuser...abuse and then apologies. Please call the domestic violence hotline; I stayed for 31 years with an abuser, and then found the book that saved my life; The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans.....He will not stop (unless he gets into therapy), and most abusers don't think they have a problem. Women are murdered every day by a partner/husband. You will have to (as hard as it is) stand up for yourself and make plans to leave. Yes you will be destined for a lifetime of violence, unless you leave. xoxo...You cannot help him...