I think it takes a kind of arrogance to meet someone a few times and tell them that everything they have been told about their MI is wrong...

I also think there are some birth control pills that keep hormones stable, so that might be something to think about since you mentioned that you were more stable when not menstruating.

Another might be to chart your mental state vs your cycle for awhile (months) and see if there is a connection. FWIW I was more moody before menopause but the underlying disease pattern is still the same. The depression has a different flavour, so does the mania but the psychosis is the same.