I have been with my T for three and a half years. A few times, in that first year, she told me she loved me. Sometimes would even sign Emails with "Love, T". All of a sudden things changed with her, boundaries started changing, and she...well, just changed. I talked to her about the use of the word "love" and she said that word is reserved for family and close people in her life. Knowing she used to say it to me, that broke my heart. Several months later I wanted to tell her something difficult. Something I was scared to admit to her. She knew I was struggling with sharing it. I came close. But then I sort of panicked, then asked her "do you love me?" She didn't like that, apparently....she never answered, but I got an Email from her later accusing me of being a bully for asking that. Broke my heart.