GeeN,
That's a really good question. I'd pay a million dollars to someone who could make me accept my OCD. It's a daily battle with secondary emotions--feeling guilty for my obsessions, feeling defective, feeling perverted. Reading has helped me somewhat. The unconditional acceptance of my T and my pyschiatrist have helped too. My faith helps--are you of a particular faith? I have a long ways to go to accept my OCD, too, so it's not an easy process.

I do like the serenity prayer. Do you know that?

God, grant me the serentiy to accept that which I cannot change; courage to change that which I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.

Best wishes. . .