Well, I totally relate.

And I think if people were totally honest, they would relate too. Sometimes I think people who say those things are in denial about their own feelings.

Quite recently a psychologist explained it by saying that the trauma we experience gets stored in our "long term memory" section of our brain. And we need to get it out of there, have it gone. He said the "memory" won't go away by itself. We have to work on it with therapy. (He is an advocate for ERDM therapy for PTSD).

No one should put you/anyone down like that, try not to let them get to you. Take care.