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Originally Posted by rechu
^ ^ I'm glad my comment was useful. When I was younger I always got a lot of comments that I would change my mind, I'd regret it, etc. I had a boyfriend break up with me when he finally realized I was serious about not having kids. He was biding his time hoping I'd change my mind. When we broke up, a few people asked why I wouldn't "compromise" and have one kid! Another friend who did regret not having kids kept telling me to freeze my eggs. Fortuntely, by now, most people realize I am serious, although I get the occasional comment since I look younger than I am.
These days I have several friends that don't have children by choice either who are very understanding of my choices, so that is helpful.
If anything, these days I am even more sure in my decision. My husband and I went through a rough few years recently, mainly financial and job stress. Things are better now, but it was very stressful for a while. I think if we had kids while going through all that, it would have been even more difficult, especially from a financial aspect.
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Funny you say that, as my ex boyfriend asked about my feelings about kids once, and pretty much immediately broke up with me when I voiced my feelings. (Also we were 17 at the time, like wtf??) There's no compromising when it comes to your body and comfort.
I have a few as well, and it really does help.
See, even if I wanted kids that's something I would worry about. A child shouldn't be forced to worry about their family's financial situation. I commend you for being responsible in that aspect, unlike so many other people.
On a similar note, even if I did want kids, I feel it would be cruel of me to have them. I suffer from severe depression and anxiety, as well as numerous chronic health issues. It's not a quality of life I could pass onto someone with a clear conscience. I love my parents, but I'm very bitter that they chose to have me, knowing that they would pass these problems on. I've suffered because of it.