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Old Nov 22, 2017, 12:10 PM
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Perhaps it is an it. I happen to consider our said filter as more of a function than a standard human-esque individual in our system. My take on him is likely due to the fact that I do not believe he has ever been up front and center in this body of ours. That and we have several non human individuals so it's not all that uncommon for us. I digress. For me and my own band of merry misfits, those of us who do not and have not engaged life in this body, but did internal jobs, always seem to initially come across to others as enigmas, mysterious, and spooky as all get out, monolithic things.

Perhaps it is afraid. If it has a job unique to itself and has been doing what it does, it stands to reason it has been doing so for the benefit of the whole. It's there for a reason, mentality. There seems a few components to that; sense of purpose perhaps being removed, worry over not doing a good job keeping others safe should it's job be interrupted, change on it's own is generally disturbing... perhaps it could even be unaware of you all as independent human beings who have been living life. Who knows? Those are my own biases though; I have wondered such things about our filter. I have no idea how he understands life, if he understands life, or if he simply is.

As for the initial question about communicating with such parts. Oh, we had a function, a place holder if you will, who was able to communicate with us and chose to do so by showing up one day and spooking the system members who were living life during that time. Not the same as our filter, but it's the closest I got in regards to actual communication building with function type system members. I didn't build communication with E, that would be C.

If I recall correctly, what C did was make it clear to E that they were causing system wide fear due to suddenly finding out there was this creepy thing living silently along side us all those years. E being a protector type was disturbed to discover they were causing what they would fill in to protect others from. They did not know they were doing that. E and C built on common ground. They both wanted to look out for their own and protect those who needed it. Mutual respect came from that once C understood E meant well. The active system members trusted C completely. That helped. The time was right for it to. We had all these system members popping outta the woodwork back then and a lot of them were truly understanding it was not the past and trying to adjust to not being the job they always had been. Real change heavy time. E seemed to want in on that and tried to adjust their job to continue helping in the present. It took some time and slow movin steps to hear C tell it. I think it happened fast, only took a few months but patient never was a word anyone used when describing C. Intimidated is also not a word to be used when describing that her. Lol.

That was a lot of words to say maybe build it slow, steady, and on common ground and trust. Assuming, of course, the time is right for you and yours. But if your filter is anything like ours, it might just shut things down if it is not the right time, but I do have to wonder if maybe it is the right time since it did make itself known to you. That's a big deal. Big step. My take anyhow.

-Tay
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