Please get out. It's already escalated from pushing to punching. What's next? You don't deserve to be treated like this.
He will probably try to blame the alcohol. Being drunk does not make you abusive. Don't buy into that crap. My husband fed me that line for 20+ years and I believed him and wasted many years trying to get him to stop drinking.
I know you love him and don't want to hurt him, but don't fall into the same trap I did. My husband was unemployed for a long time (years and years) and had no prospects. I knew if I left him he would end up homeless and I didn't want that for him. So I stayed. I didn't know how to solve the problem. His abuse was mainly verbal, but it escalated at the end to physical and he ended up setting our house on fire and is now in prison. Not exactly the outcome I wanted for him. Staying did not help him in the end and it certainly didn't help me.
Call a domestic violence hotline and make a safety plan. Leaving is the most dangerous time.
I hope you give us an update if you want to.
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