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Only now I'm having troubles opening up to her at all. i know I'm experiencing transference. That came out of the blue and hit me like a ton of bricks. I never knew such a thing existed before. Now I wonder if that has influenced my ability to open up. Besides this, I'm feeling better. I don't want to stop therapy, but I also feel guilty because I'm too old to need this (should I have it together by now? I'm in my late 40s), or because my problems aren't big enough/important enough (some people have it worse). Maybe I'm not feeling blue enough, and of course, what started me on this path is not going to go away any time soon. How long can i struggle with a problem and not do anything to change my situation?

I totally get this. I don't think there's any right or wrong age for "getting it together," and I also know that a lot of people who seem like they've gotten it together are lost/depressed/hurting inside. I'm almost 60 (WOW!) and I don't have it all together. And, your problems ARE big enough/important enough. You feel what you feel about your problems/issues. Other people perhaps couldn't deal with your life or you with theirs. That doesn't make them "worse" than you, just different.