We're still mixed up in transference and countertransference. . He didn't want to engage with my ambivalent feelings towards him. I said all I wanted him to do was empathise. It wasn't a big ask.
The good news is that he realised half way through the session and said he was exasperated with himself for getting caught in the countertransference.
But I'm still concerned that if we don't tackle it head on it will just recur again and again. At the end he said he needed to reflect on the fact I had to help him figure out what has happening. I said yeah, it felt like I had to tell you how to do your job. He nodded. I sent an email tonight saying that I'm concerned he could lose objectivity and that I could be hurt. I want us to feel on the same team again.