You can't change how they feel about each other. I would simply stop them whenever they say anything about each other and either tell them you won't listen to them badmouth each other or leave the room every time they start. It's called a boundary.

I went through this in my early 20s with my parents. But I didn't live at home anymore so it was different for me. I think it's harder for you because you are still dependent on your parents.

I'm not familiar with this Hungarian guy you speak of. But at least you have someone to chat with regularly.

I think the last time you posted a lot of us had encouraged you to seek out your own housing. Have you made any progress towards that end? I think the breakup of your parents would be a lot easier to deal with if you had an independent life of your own and if your life wasn't so dependent on them.

I'm sorry you have to go through this. When my parents finally decided to divorce I was actually thankful. They made my childhood miserable by "staying together for the kids" and they are actually why I have such severe PTSD and depression - because they created a violent home environment with their relationship that traumatized me from the day I was born.

Just know that you're in the beginning of this separation, and their emotions are still raw. After a year or two, they will move on and be happier without each other and find new meaning in their separate lives.

Glad you're back.

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