It's hugely to your credit that you think of him in this caring way.

I'm trying to really put myself in your shoes.

There are times in life when we suddenly find ourselves in an emergency situation. It doesn't matter how or why. It's not about blame. We're just in it.

I've had many.

Erm.... well, it's not about my experiences. (But I will share them if you think it will help).

A day like you describe cannot be repeated for any length of time. It might have its moments of security and comfort. But this is a volatile situation. One of you will crack.