thanks to all who shared their thoughts.

I don't know if he is to be commended on seeking help at this point. He never admitted to having a problem until he was convinced she was leaving. Even then he began therapy to try and get her back, not to help himself. It seems very manipulative to me, or maybe that's just my own inadequacies talking.

It's been almost a month since his last therapy session. He stopped because the holidays got too busy. According to her, he plans on going back soon. And she's supposed to go with him to at least one of the therapy sessions.

As KD said, it is a toughie. I just can't understand why someone would return to a potantially volatile situation with all the risks involved, when there's the potential for a nurturing and loving relationship elsewhere.