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Originally Posted by FallDuskTrain
I understand.
I lost my dad to suicide this year. While I am doing absolutely nothing to deal with his loss (i am in complete denial), I am filed with guilt.
I did not have the opportunity to be there for him.
I hope you are feeling better. If you are not, that is understandable.
I am here.
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Really sorry to hear this, Falldusk
Don't feel guilt! This is one of the awful things about a sudden death, especially suicide. Everyone feels guilty!
When my father died, my older brother wasn't speaking to him. I mean, he'd completely disowned him. Terrible things were said.
Hindsight is a wonderful thing. If we could see what is going to happen, we'd know what to do. But humans aren't made that way.
Everyone I've spoken to who's lost someone has this bitter and corrosive feeling of regret. Even if the death is relatively 'straightforward'.
Dads love their children. If he was able to speak to you now, do you think he would say, 'I want you to suffer and brood and blame yourself.'
He wouldn't
