Soliaree, I'm so sorry for your bad day. There are many days I have had almost exactly the same experience--volatile, unreasonable, and angry outburst from my daughter directed at me, and distant, uncaring display from husband.

With your daughter, I don't think it is personal. Is she a teen? I have two teen daughters and they are just so volatile and angry sometimes--it defies reason. I remember being much more controlled at that age, but my girls are not. They just are very illogical and nothing is ever their fault. It sounds like your husband didn't know what you wanted from him. In a calmer time, can you tell him what you need from him during these challenging times of being a parent? For example, maybe you just want him to listen to you and give you a hug. Or maybe you want his advice on how to handle angry outbursts from your daughter. Or maybe you want him to talk to your daughter. He didn't know and sounded frustrated with that, so he left. Try telling him what you need and see if he can provide it next time. If you tell him and he says "screw that," then at least you tried, and can move on to dealing with the information that your husband is not interested in helping you in situations like that. But give him a chance first by telling him directly what you need.

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I am having so much difficulty with my sessions with T, he is so detached.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Do you say that just because he didn't email or phone you back? Or is he acting that way also face to face? If so, I hope you can tell him that you perceive his behavior in session as detached. This is a way of telling your T what you need from him. Again, much like the husband situation, they don't necessarily know what we need unless we tell them.