Yes, it's part of the job description . . . for sure. But I'm finding they don't clean him up properly. That leads to him getting a UTI. Sometimes a shower is necessary. He's a bit difficult to shower. For me it's no problem. But that's me. Two CNAs with nursing home experience I hired, and they left him dirty. So I haven't had either of them back. In a nursing home, there's back up. A caregiver doesn't have to work alone. He can't clean himself.

I don't want his bathroom contaminated. I brush my teeth and shower in there. Cleaning an elderly, mobility impaired person who is incontinent of B&B takes art and science. He's not always totally cooperative, either, but I can get him to go along. He's a high "fall risk," so maneuvering him on a wet shower floor takes skill. I manage okay. I can't get the attendants to even seat him comfortably in his recliner. I guess it's becoming a lost art.

When I worked in facilities, I used to instruct the aids I worked with on cleaning people properly. Though they take a course including that, most do a half-ways job. Sorry, that's the reality. I'm not just picking on people. There are very skillful people out there somewhere. Finding them is very tough.

We just got back from eating out. It was okay. We got out at least. This weekend, I have to clean his apartment. Hard to get motivated.